Tuesday, 28 February 2012

why we are not progressing

My A' Level literature class this year is studying Half of a yellow sun by Chimamanda Ngozie Adichie a Nigerian writer who brings to the page a kind of lyricism which is reminiscent of Ngugi wa Thiongo and Chinua Achebe. I was enthralled right up to the last page; she wove the story so intricately in idiomatic English that I could relate to. The story brought to the fore the reasons why as Africans we have failed to progress and eradicate poverty.

1. Tribalism
Whichever country on the continent you go to, the country is always divided along tribal lines. The massacre in Rwanda in 1994 was because of failure to understand each other as tribes of one country, the call for a separate state of Matebeleland in Zimbabwe is because of suspicion and failure to get along as one nation. Tribal polarisation is the root of all the ills in our country.
 
2. Jealousy
The green - eyed monster has been at the centre of the hoarding, defrauding and sabotaging of local infrastructure, personal injury and fatalities when we are faced with the senseless behaviour which we occasionally engaged in in the past but which of late has been a regular alarming occurrence.

3. Religious polarisation
Whilst we talk of religious tolerance, we still have a long way to go. We need to start practising what we preach and our church leaders need to be tolerant and considerate people. We need to live together in harmony with no prejudice.

4. Selfishness 
I have noticed that Zimbabweans behave like crabs, always pulling each other down (although this is also true of other parts of the world). The moment we start thinking about how our actions affect the person next to us and how we can make the world a better place, we will become less selfish.

peace,

fadz

Tuesday, 7 February 2012

what you should do if you are planning a wedding

I am not a wedding planner but I have gone to enough weddings to know just how to cut those corners and ensure you do not have a raging headache on your wedding day.

1. Plan well in advance.
It is never a good idea to do a rush job. You will end up missing the most essential bits of  your plan. Chances are you will end up spoiling everything. Remember a  wedding is a show and you want to put on a good show.

2. Buy your wedding gown online.
China offers the cheapest wedding gowns all over. In stead of splashing pockets of money on a dress you will only wear once which you can get elsewhere at a fraction of the price why not visit Aliexpress and associated websites to get the best deal on the wedding gown. Do not settle for a dress which is ill fitting and outdated because you cannot afford to buy it new.


3. Have a guest list and stick to it.
It is all very well to invite everyone to share your happiness on your day of bliss but there has to be some plan. Know the estimated number of attendees, insist on RSVPs and plan the seating so there is no confusion. Plan that the relatives who might cause each other gbh are as far away from each other as possible. Little place cards which you can make yourself will lend a personal touch to your wedding.

4. Shop for the best but cheapest cake.
Individual cake makers offer the best deals as you only have to deal with the one person. You can negotiate the price and still get the best deal. Do not settle for the cheap inferior cake. Find one that is affordable but still the best. And remember everyone wants to take a piece of cake home, not the tiny melt-on-your-tongue pieces that are sometimes given at weddings. So make a plan about lots of cake for parcels.

5. Find a venue which has a bar area as well as a play area.
Most people want a drink at a wedding (not the non alcoholic variety) and a dry bar will chase away most people early. Have a bar area where those who want to drink can do so freely. And do not stipulate a no children rule. With the help the way it is right now it is not possible to go a wedding where there are no children allowed. So a play area with the necessary equipment to keep the totfans busy is essential.

6. Have an evening wedding.
This is by far the best idea; you entertain people for a short specific time and save yourself the headache of getting ready for the wedding. You can look your best and not worry about the mascara running well before time. and face it, you only have to feed people two meals and entertain them for a short period. How cool is that?

peace,

fadz