Mollycoddle
Verb: Treat someone very indulgently or protectively.
Noun: An effeminate or ineffectual man or boy.
It seems the in thing to let children do what they want and shelter them from the harsh realities of life. New - money parents go out of their way to 'baby' their kids. Their reasoning is that if you listen to your children and you reason with them, they will turn into well rounded adults. As men, the boys will be more understanding and helpful to their partners.
I think not.
If anything they will turn into very irritating touchy - feely people who annoy us no end. Irritating adults who have no back bone and are seriously annoying. That is not counting the fact that they want to reason everything out, cannot fight - and who does not want a really dirty fight every once in a while? - and they give therapists too much work.
I was raised the traditional way with no sparing of the rod and turned out just fine. My parents rarely listened to me and their word was law. I might not have appreciated it then and probably secretly thought they were not my parents, but I am the stronger for it. I am not saying that we should abuse our kids - quite the contrary really. We need to listen to the kids and get their point of view but there are times when the child needs to be given a thorough beating to set them straight. Too much time is spent thinking about our children's feelings that we forget that we matter too. It gets to the point where we are slaves to our ids' whims, we become run down and need therapy because we do not lay down the law!
So the child was denied permission to have a sleepover with friends just because - so what? I do not to give a reason why and I do not want to have a bunch of kids running around my house giving me grief because I am tired and need my me time. Should I sacrifice the little bit of myself that I have left just because I need to shelter my kids? I think not. My kids will get what I can give them because that is what I can!
A friend will not allow her kids to speak shona or any vernacular language because she thinks its a low class notion. According to her wealthy educated people speak English. She does not take her kids to the rural areas because it does their constitutions ill. I can not stand her kids Iam sorry to say. Their whining and constant demands. They irritate me and are socially inept; little Hitlers in the making. My friend looks at them indulgently and is proud that her kids are difficult.
When we raise our kids, think of how they are going to relate with the outside world . It's survival of the fittest and you might want your kids to survive. If you still think you want to mollycoddle your kids then read articles on these two sites and you might rethink: www.independent.co.uk, www.mirror.co.uk
Verb: Treat someone very indulgently or protectively.
Noun: An effeminate or ineffectual man or boy.
It seems the in thing to let children do what they want and shelter them from the harsh realities of life. New - money parents go out of their way to 'baby' their kids. Their reasoning is that if you listen to your children and you reason with them, they will turn into well rounded adults. As men, the boys will be more understanding and helpful to their partners.
I think not.
If anything they will turn into very irritating touchy - feely people who annoy us no end. Irritating adults who have no back bone and are seriously annoying. That is not counting the fact that they want to reason everything out, cannot fight - and who does not want a really dirty fight every once in a while? - and they give therapists too much work.
I was raised the traditional way with no sparing of the rod and turned out just fine. My parents rarely listened to me and their word was law. I might not have appreciated it then and probably secretly thought they were not my parents, but I am the stronger for it. I am not saying that we should abuse our kids - quite the contrary really. We need to listen to the kids and get their point of view but there are times when the child needs to be given a thorough beating to set them straight. Too much time is spent thinking about our children's feelings that we forget that we matter too. It gets to the point where we are slaves to our ids' whims, we become run down and need therapy because we do not lay down the law!
So the child was denied permission to have a sleepover with friends just because - so what? I do not to give a reason why and I do not want to have a bunch of kids running around my house giving me grief because I am tired and need my me time. Should I sacrifice the little bit of myself that I have left just because I need to shelter my kids? I think not. My kids will get what I can give them because that is what I can!
A friend will not allow her kids to speak shona or any vernacular language because she thinks its a low class notion. According to her wealthy educated people speak English. She does not take her kids to the rural areas because it does their constitutions ill. I can not stand her kids Iam sorry to say. Their whining and constant demands. They irritate me and are socially inept; little Hitlers in the making. My friend looks at them indulgently and is proud that her kids are difficult.
When we raise our kids, think of how they are going to relate with the outside world . It's survival of the fittest and you might want your kids to survive. If you still think you want to mollycoddle your kids then read articles on these two sites and you might rethink: www.independent.co.uk, www.mirror.co.uk
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