Very often we make decisions which we will later regret because we do not think first. Too little time is spend on weighing the pros and cons of the actions we take that we get surprised when things do not turn out the way we hoped. There are a few things you need to consider before you go back to your ex.
1. Why do you want to go back? you might feel that you can not get anyone else and will have to settle for second best but are you a dog which goes back for its own vomit? What is the real reason? Do you feel so lonely that you will take just about anything?
2. Why did you break up in the first place? If he/she cheated on you then you can be sure that the same thing will happen again eventually. If you were not moving on the same wavelength... What makes you think things have changed this time around? History has proven that no one changes at all, they just pretend to to get their own way.
3. Regression. As a person you should always strive to become better than you are, superman; the Nietzschean superman (not the Marvel Comics superman). Going back to your past to your ex is regression and will hinder any personal growth.
4. The ex will take you for granted. If they did something bad and you took them back, you will forever be the pushover who does not value themselves at all. They will take advantage of you without any due consideration.
But please do not let me stop you! S/he might be very hot, have oodles of money and they are just what you need. who am I to stand in the way of your own vanity? Remember you need an ex like you need a hole in the head!
peace,
fadz
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