Breaking up with someone is never easy especially if you have been in a long term relationship. You wrestle with yourself, finally convince yourself that the break up is what you really want and you are faced with a new dilemma; how to break it gently with the other person. Here are some of the ways you can use to break up with your beloved:
1. A Note on the dressing table
If you don't have one (a dressing table), you can just chuck the note on the pillow, table, fridge or the shoe rack. You just clear out your stuff and steal off into the night like a thief. But this only works if the place is not yours and you have a temporary place to stay while you sort yourself out. If the place is yours you might need to consider one of the other methods.
2. Confrontation
This is not for the fainthearted. If the other person has a dominant personality you might think of shelving this idea. It is sometimes difficult to stand your ground if you have a chicken personality. They (the beloved) will often try to convince you to stay, as in stay in the relationship. You might be convinced that what you have decided is not good for you, that you will not amount to anything without them. You need to be strong if you are to succeed in your endeavour. Just say what needs to be said and sweep out of the room (or into one) so there are no comebacks. As precaution, do not go into secluded places, get into their car and some such thing. People have been known to be left far from home with no money to get back. And have the police on speed dial in the event the beloved takes the news the wrong way. If you fail to summon enough courage you might consider any of the following.
3. SMS
Send an sms telling them its over, divert all voice calls and make sure there is no other way they can reach you. This might necessitate your switching off the said phone for a number of days. Not a good idea though if the phone is a business phone. Tell your friends not to answer any calls from the beloved and make sure everyone is on the same page.It's cowardly yes, but self - preservation is more important. You might consider also changing your locks and informing everyone that you are no longer an item just so he/she will be too ashamed to chase after you. This requires diligence, lots of airtime and a bit of cash for emergency repairs to your person or property.(Remember the beloved might become angry with the situation and decide on inflicting some grievous bodily harm).
4. Writing on their face book wall
This is insensitive and shameful but it will get the job done. Don't inbox the person. No that will not do. Write on their wall so the whole world can see and share their shame. There is nothing as shameful as finding out that you have been ditched on a public platform. They will take time out to lick their wounds and will never want to speak to you ever again. Or alternatively just change your status to single. Don't flirt with the 'it's complicated' option as this will send mixed messages. Only do this if the beloved has been especially nasty.
5. Cheat on them.
Only do this if you know that your partner will not tolerate it and make sure they find out about it. That way they will break up with you and you wont have to do any serious soul searching. Be careful with this option though as this has a tendency to backfire. And make sure the cheating is very superficial with no sex involved as this just complicates things. You might end up getting a different kind of problem. You know what they say about rebound relationships.
If these methods do not work, do not despair. I am going to work on some foolproof ways to get rid of the beloved.
peace,
fadz
1. A Note on the dressing table
If you don't have one (a dressing table), you can just chuck the note on the pillow, table, fridge or the shoe rack. You just clear out your stuff and steal off into the night like a thief. But this only works if the place is not yours and you have a temporary place to stay while you sort yourself out. If the place is yours you might need to consider one of the other methods.
2. Confrontation
This is not for the fainthearted. If the other person has a dominant personality you might think of shelving this idea. It is sometimes difficult to stand your ground if you have a chicken personality. They (the beloved) will often try to convince you to stay, as in stay in the relationship. You might be convinced that what you have decided is not good for you, that you will not amount to anything without them. You need to be strong if you are to succeed in your endeavour. Just say what needs to be said and sweep out of the room (or into one) so there are no comebacks. As precaution, do not go into secluded places, get into their car and some such thing. People have been known to be left far from home with no money to get back. And have the police on speed dial in the event the beloved takes the news the wrong way. If you fail to summon enough courage you might consider any of the following.
3. SMS
Send an sms telling them its over, divert all voice calls and make sure there is no other way they can reach you. This might necessitate your switching off the said phone for a number of days. Not a good idea though if the phone is a business phone. Tell your friends not to answer any calls from the beloved and make sure everyone is on the same page.It's cowardly yes, but self - preservation is more important. You might consider also changing your locks and informing everyone that you are no longer an item just so he/she will be too ashamed to chase after you. This requires diligence, lots of airtime and a bit of cash for emergency repairs to your person or property.(Remember the beloved might become angry with the situation and decide on inflicting some grievous bodily harm).
4. Writing on their face book wall
This is insensitive and shameful but it will get the job done. Don't inbox the person. No that will not do. Write on their wall so the whole world can see and share their shame. There is nothing as shameful as finding out that you have been ditched on a public platform. They will take time out to lick their wounds and will never want to speak to you ever again. Or alternatively just change your status to single. Don't flirt with the 'it's complicated' option as this will send mixed messages. Only do this if the beloved has been especially nasty.
5. Cheat on them.
Only do this if you know that your partner will not tolerate it and make sure they find out about it. That way they will break up with you and you wont have to do any serious soul searching. Be careful with this option though as this has a tendency to backfire. And make sure the cheating is very superficial with no sex involved as this just complicates things. You might end up getting a different kind of problem. You know what they say about rebound relationships.
If these methods do not work, do not despair. I am going to work on some foolproof ways to get rid of the beloved.
peace,
fadz
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