An hour or so ago, I went to pick up my kids from school. They take forever to come to the car and sometimes they ignore me hoping to prolong the playtime. I usually get into the playground and haul them to the car. Today I let them be. I was feeling nostalgic so I played a bit of music from yesteryear. And Bryan Adams got me thinking: how many men have really loved their women? According to Bryan Adams, you have not really loved your woman if you have not done the following:
1. known her deep inside
2. heard her every thought
3. seen her every dream
4. given her wings when she needs to fly
5. told her she is really wanted
6. told her she is the one
7. told her its going to last forever
8. let her hold you till until you know how she needs to be loved
9. breathed her, tasted her, until you could feel her in your blood
10. shown her a little tenderness.
Now I know this is rather difficult and most of the time African men think it is a sign of weakness to show a woman that she is really loved. They urge each other on on how to best ill - treat women. The suggestions they give each other would be hilarious if they were not so frightening. I suppose that is the legacy of colonialism which we will need to address.
This might sound like sentimental drivel, but a woman really needs to be loved. If you show her a bit of love, she will be there for you right to the end taking good care of you.
Don't listen to friends who tell you you need to show a woman her place (she will know it if you treat her right), do not entertain thoughts of beating her up for whatever reason (I know there are women who love getting a beating every now and again - the masochists - I am not referring to those) because nothing kills a woman's spirit like a beating and verbal abuse, do not cheat on her (if you feel the need to cheat, you did not love her in the first place!) and cherish her. A woman is like a flower and needs a lot of attention; attend to her and she will bloom, ignore and neglect her and she will wilt and die. And so her love also dies.
And remember every woman is different, know her and what makes her happy and you are half way there. Just because your mother tolerated your father's sport, do not think your woman will tolerate the same thing. You do not want to spent the rest of your life with someone who is with you just because she is too broke to manage on her own.
So if you are a man ask yourself if you know your woman, know her dreams and what makes her happy. If you are a woman do tell if you have ever felt loved!
love and peace,
fadz
1. known her deep inside
2. heard her every thought
3. seen her every dream
4. given her wings when she needs to fly
5. told her she is really wanted
6. told her she is the one
7. told her its going to last forever
8. let her hold you till until you know how she needs to be loved
9. breathed her, tasted her, until you could feel her in your blood
10. shown her a little tenderness.
Now I know this is rather difficult and most of the time African men think it is a sign of weakness to show a woman that she is really loved. They urge each other on on how to best ill - treat women. The suggestions they give each other would be hilarious if they were not so frightening. I suppose that is the legacy of colonialism which we will need to address.
This might sound like sentimental drivel, but a woman really needs to be loved. If you show her a bit of love, she will be there for you right to the end taking good care of you.
Don't listen to friends who tell you you need to show a woman her place (she will know it if you treat her right), do not entertain thoughts of beating her up for whatever reason (I know there are women who love getting a beating every now and again - the masochists - I am not referring to those) because nothing kills a woman's spirit like a beating and verbal abuse, do not cheat on her (if you feel the need to cheat, you did not love her in the first place!) and cherish her. A woman is like a flower and needs a lot of attention; attend to her and she will bloom, ignore and neglect her and she will wilt and die. And so her love also dies.
And remember every woman is different, know her and what makes her happy and you are half way there. Just because your mother tolerated your father's sport, do not think your woman will tolerate the same thing. You do not want to spent the rest of your life with someone who is with you just because she is too broke to manage on her own.
So if you are a man ask yourself if you know your woman, know her dreams and what makes her happy. If you are a woman do tell if you have ever felt loved!
love and peace,
fadz
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