Anomaly (n): something different for the norm; irregularity or paradox
Woman (n): adult female human being, has qualities traditionally associated with women.
It has long been established and accepted that once a woman is married, then the entirety of her existence would be solely to ensure the happiness of her husband and children. If she does not please her husband, or does not have children; then she was not woman enough. So definition of woman in this case; loving, nurturing, generous, long - suffering and docile.
Then someone took into account that women far from being docile creatures with no single thought of their own, women were also quite tempestuous, vengeful and could get spectacularly get angry and coined the term, 'Hell hath no fury like a scorned woman.' Someone was even clever enough to name all really destructive storms, cyclones, hurricanes etc in women's names. Definition here, vengeful, destructive, unreasonable, unstable.
The two definitions combined do describe women, with a few contraries. There is a balance in the craziness and the sanity. Women through the ages have tried their best to live up to the stereotype more fool them. Take for example my good friend Taneta whose husband Gift is cheating on her. Her mother - in - law says it is because she has not learnt to please Gift. The cheating is so blatant that everyone knows if he is not home he is with one of his women. Even Taneta knows. She chooses to be unreasonable and occasionally goes to beat up the women. How crazy is that? It's not as if by beating the women up, Gift will stop his lecherous ways.
Then there is Monica who chooses to ignore her partner's wicked ways. She believes that things will turn out well in the end. But really? With the whole world awash with scary diseases, someone just wants to court disaster.
Monica and Taneta are just representation of the general female psyche; those who refuse to see the truth. There are some however who even when confronted with solid evidence, still will not go. They claim to want to stay for the sake of the children. What they are really saying is they are not financially independent and so will not want to leave, because the leaving just means you are taking the children with you. You can not leave the kids because we will look at you and judge you.
There are a few who defy logic and convention; the ones who will not tolerate the sport and just leave. There are some who even leave the kids with the husband. We sit on our moral high horses and judge them not because we are better but because we are less and too cowardly to do the same. We are too afraid to let go.
Then my friend Mercy whose boyfriend Goddy refused to let go when she kicked him out (she obviously did not read my tips on how to break up with someone) and kept harassing her so much that she eventually had to have the police on his case. We believe we can not take refuge in the law because someday we might want to get back with the beloved. We forget we are important too.
We get into relationships with unsuitable people but think we can change them. We refuse to take stock of our lives and think logically and live wretched lives because of it. We hold on to unfulfilled, toxic relationships because we are too scared. Should we really?
peace,
fadz
Woman (n): adult female human being, has qualities traditionally associated with women.
It has long been established and accepted that once a woman is married, then the entirety of her existence would be solely to ensure the happiness of her husband and children. If she does not please her husband, or does not have children; then she was not woman enough. So definition of woman in this case; loving, nurturing, generous, long - suffering and docile.
Then someone took into account that women far from being docile creatures with no single thought of their own, women were also quite tempestuous, vengeful and could get spectacularly get angry and coined the term, 'Hell hath no fury like a scorned woman.' Someone was even clever enough to name all really destructive storms, cyclones, hurricanes etc in women's names. Definition here, vengeful, destructive, unreasonable, unstable.
The two definitions combined do describe women, with a few contraries. There is a balance in the craziness and the sanity. Women through the ages have tried their best to live up to the stereotype more fool them. Take for example my good friend Taneta whose husband Gift is cheating on her. Her mother - in - law says it is because she has not learnt to please Gift. The cheating is so blatant that everyone knows if he is not home he is with one of his women. Even Taneta knows. She chooses to be unreasonable and occasionally goes to beat up the women. How crazy is that? It's not as if by beating the women up, Gift will stop his lecherous ways.
Then there is Monica who chooses to ignore her partner's wicked ways. She believes that things will turn out well in the end. But really? With the whole world awash with scary diseases, someone just wants to court disaster.
Monica and Taneta are just representation of the general female psyche; those who refuse to see the truth. There are some however who even when confronted with solid evidence, still will not go. They claim to want to stay for the sake of the children. What they are really saying is they are not financially independent and so will not want to leave, because the leaving just means you are taking the children with you. You can not leave the kids because we will look at you and judge you.
There are a few who defy logic and convention; the ones who will not tolerate the sport and just leave. There are some who even leave the kids with the husband. We sit on our moral high horses and judge them not because we are better but because we are less and too cowardly to do the same. We are too afraid to let go.
Then my friend Mercy whose boyfriend Goddy refused to let go when she kicked him out (she obviously did not read my tips on how to break up with someone) and kept harassing her so much that she eventually had to have the police on his case. We believe we can not take refuge in the law because someday we might want to get back with the beloved. We forget we are important too.
We get into relationships with unsuitable people but think we can change them. We refuse to take stock of our lives and think logically and live wretched lives because of it. We hold on to unfulfilled, toxic relationships because we are too scared. Should we really?
peace,
fadz
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